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The
time has come for you to settle
down. You know it, your woman
senses it and you both recognize
the fact that a wedding ceremony
is in your imminent future
together. Whether the proposal
has been accepted and the date
set or you have been consumed
with the thought of marriage and
have yet to make a move, the
time has come to plan the big
day like a man.
Once the exclusive domain of the
bride and her mother or a
professional coordinator, more
and more men are placing their
stamp on the wedding. As men
realize that the wedding is not
just for the bride and seek to
have a hand in the day as well,
the occasion has taken on a new
dimension.
The development is long past due
if you ask me. Why should women
have control over the entire
wedding and remain the focal
point while the man fades into
the dessert table and open bar?
I agree with the veneration of
the beautiful bride, resplendent
in her gown and about to be
given away by her father. That
is a classic moment. But the
groom should share in the
spotlight as well.
The day is about the couple and
not just the bride after all. A
wedding is a union between
couples for life. As people
gather to celebrate that bond,
should the man sit idle and
discover detail after detail
about the ceremony and reception
for the first time? I think not.
The wedding should be a tangible
manifestation of your love for
each other. Sound corny? Maybe
so, but why else would you go
through with an elaborate event
other than to represent how you
both act, think and feel
together?
As the man, do you want to sit
back and have her signature all
over the entire affair? If the
day is a success, the guests
will have her to thank, or her
mother. You cannot take pride in
having helped to plan your own
wedding. Even worse, if
something goes wrong, your bride
will have herself to blame.
You may not be held accountable
but without having participated,
you will look like a loser who
let his woman do everything.
What kind of message does that
send to her and her family?
The point is that the wedding
should sink or swim based on the
dual input of both the bride
and the groom. No matter how
hard you worked to find an
engagement ring and offer the
perfect proposal, it will go to
waste unless you demonstrate
similar enthusiasm for the
wedding. Cold feet aside, the
day will not hold the same
significance unless you add your
personal touch and consultation
to make it a memorable event for
you both. |
